I use my stylus a lot actually - some notetaking apps etc that I use a lot, but also for just general use to give my fingers a break.
My main stylus is from iFaraday
iFaraday Store, they have a few styles but I use the iFaraday RxII. Love this stylus, it's the one that I always pull out first. Material tip, nice size and weight, don't have to apply a lot of pressure.
My second stylus of choice is the Alupen
Just Mobile Xtand - Stand for iPhone / iPod touch / MacBook they have tons of colors. This is a rubber type tip, thick in your hand and has some weight to it, just feels nice in my hand I guess.
I also have the Aponyo click stylus
Amazon.com: Aponyo Click - Fabric-tipped Stylus for Capacitive Touch-screens (iPad 2, New iPad 3, Android, HTC, Samsung) (White): Electronics which is always in my purse as a back up. My daughter prefers this one over my iFaraday so it's personal preference. Material tip which seems hollow so, to me, I feel I have to apply more pressure than my iFaraday. It's smaller and more compact.
As for the others mentioned above, I've not tried them so this isn't a comparison to those, just what I use. Good luck on your search!