This is why I think the Xoom (and other future Android tablets) is a great thing. After a year of being with the iPad, those of us who do want the extra customization and the more complex user interface finally have a viable option.
Ever since the first iPhone came out with it's "wall of icons" approach to a user interface I knew it would be a great success because of how simple it is, but how functional it is (thanks to app developers) at the same time. But there is certain population of us here (admittedly the minority) who want something different, something we can truly customize to reflect our personality. In my personal experience and hobbies, it's the same thing with cars, 95% of people just want the car to work and be reliable. But there is that small percentage left over where you get the people who build their cars either for looks or performance or both. We are willing to deal with the problems associated with customization, the potential for reliability issues, hiccups, and hangups. Very few iOS fans will ever fully understand why Android users are willing to put up with the drawbacks. In the same way, my wife will never understand why I spend thousands of dollars on car parts when it just ends up making it less reliable and less practical in the end.
It's two completely different mindsets that create the constant conflicts between "Fandroids" and "iOS fanboys." It sucks that some people take it overboard and get personally offended by simple comments, but that's the nature of the internet and product loyalty. Mustangs vs Camaros? Porsche vs BMW? Dogs vs Cats? Windows vs OSX? It will never stop.
Just try not to get so wound up, and maybe, just maybe try the competing product out, not saying you have to buy it, but go to the store and play with it, not for 30 seconds, spend some time with it. People don't respond well to change, to things they aren't used to, especially when it's more complex than what you are accustomed to. I didn't think I would like Android up until I actually started messing with some of the phones over the last year. But I ended up liking it so much, that it actually made me dislike my iPad. Not saying everyone will be that way, but I was, and you may be too.