I hope you guys saw the remainder of my reply as I was totally kidding around. I would never wish that on anyone!
And I too have gotten the "and others" message 3 times since playing this game in December. (Those 3 times were when my grandfather was in the hospital in February.)
While I may only have 38 DV friends right now, I appreciate each and every one, and like you I do not trade with them all. I only admire their islands and collect party hats. I am almost always sitting and waiting for my gem tree to refresh so I can give away some more gems to very wonderful and friendly players!
Please do not think that I would dare with-hold or be mean to someone for not returning a gem! As I have stated before, you never know what is going on in someone's life behind Dragonvale, and I personally respect that!
Thanks to you all for your help tips and support!
April

GCID Servant 16:9 (daughter Allison GCID Angel2all; daughter Amanda GCID Servant to one)