Hi mmr... Welcome to the forum!
I also have a droid phone and an iPad 2. I did not experience the challenges that you are facing. Perhaps we can assist you? My syncing was fairly painless, though, I think our IT people did a great job walking us through the steps to sync our email on our iPad and phone. Just give us a shout if you can't find what you are looking for. There are many members here that can help you.
Best wishes.