Is 7 years A Long Time NOT To Be Married?

[AntonCartel]

My girlfriend & I have been together since 2004 & I'm not no where close to wanting to get married. I enjoy the relationship but am in a "Don't fix it if it's not broken!" kind of mind frame when it comes to marriage. I've seen a lot in my 29 years of life here & kno that ppl change. What someone loved in the beginning can later be the main thing they despise.
How long until you feel a relationship is safe for marriage lane?

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[Drag Bunt]

On about the third marriage.

 

[Parrori1]

My girlfriend & I have been together since 2004 & I'm not no where close to wanting to get married. I enjoy the relationship but am in a "Don't fix it if it's not broken!" kind of mind frame when it comes to marriage. I've seen a lot in my 29 years of life here & kno that ppl change. What someone loved in the beginning can later be the main thing they despise.
How long until you feel a relationship is safe for marriage lane?

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Hey, don't rush into anything.

 

[Kaykaykay]

It's a long time for someone who's been waiting to get married; it isn't for someone who doesn't want to.

 

[Hayles66]

I'm with you on this Kay. If you've been together 7 years and you still don't want to be married to them, I don't think marriage is the answer. You are still single in your own mind.

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[Kaykaykay]

Nothing wrong with staying single or living together indefinitely, IMO. It's just a waste of time to be with someone who doesn't want to get married if you do, is all. Plenty of fish in the sea, as they say.

 

[AdmiralAdama]

My girlfriend & I have been together since 2004 & I'm not no where close to wanting to get married. I enjoy the relationship but am in a "Don't fix it if it's not broken!" kind of mind frame when it comes to marriage. I've seen a lot in my 29 years of life here & kno that ppl change. What someone loved in the beginning can later be the main thing they despise.
How long until you feel a relationship is safe for marriage lane?

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My experience is from being married to the same person for 34 years.

Relationships are never safe. Danger and risk are part of adventure, which is what a life partnership is.

Marriage is a puzzle that can't be finished. The addition of each new and interesting piece redefines the relationship.

AA

 

[Mtnmedic]

I'm 47. Never (yet) married. I was with someone for TEN years and we never even discussed marriage. Did very well together until she died. That was a long time ago. ALMOST got married back in 2005/2006. After being together for three years, she suddenly up and left me for another man she'd met at work...3-4 months before the big day. Took me a while to get over that too. No serious relationships for the last two years. Still, I soldier on....

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[iLloyd]

Nothing wrong with staying single or living together indefinitely, IMO. It's just a waste of time to be with someone who doesn't want to get married if you do, is all. Plenty of fish in the sea, as they say.

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[AntonCartel]

On about the third marriage.

Wow, you're seasoned in the art of marriage. I bet you contain all the game regarding that subject

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[AntonCartel]

I'm with you on this Kay. If you've been together 7 years and you still don't want to be married to them, I don't think marriage is the answer. You are still single in your own mind.

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No not at all. I'm married already in my mind. But don't require the proof on paper. I'm far from single but have been around long enough to realize marriage only makes things more complicated. When it was, originally, suppose to bring the two together.
I think everyone has some preconceived notion of what marriage is suppose to be like but few hardly ever lives to the hype.

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[Kaykaykay]

No not at all. I'm married already in my mind. But don't require the proof on paper. I'm far from single but have been around long enough to realize marriage only makes things more complicated. When it was, originally, suppose to bring the two together.
I think everyone has some preconceived notion of what marriage is suppose to be like but few hardly ever lives to the hype.

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Isn't that what you opened yourself up for when you started this thread -- to get others' perspectives? It doesn't affect the rest of us whether you're married legally, in your head or however else, or not at all.

 

[zipur]

You should make up your mind marry or break up its not fare to her.

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[AntonCartel]

Isn't that what you opened yourself up for when you started this thread -- to get others' perspectives? It doesn't affect the rest of us whether you're married legally, in your head or however else, or not at all.

Yes, you are correct. To get others perspectives.
However you didn't read or misunderstood the thread.
As an individual I'm asking for the perspective of another's thought on when they feel marriage, in their lives, would be good. Whether it be 2 years, 4 years or whatever.
I didn't start this thread to get advice I'd hear from Dr. Phil. My camp is tight. I just know that there are folks on this Earth that are different from me & my sitch. Wanted to hear others sides on that issue.
But I due thank you for your input, tRuly

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[AntonCartel]

My experience is from being married to the same person for 34 years.

Relationships are never safe. Danger and risk are part of adventure, which is what a life partnership is.

Marriage is a puzzle that can't be finished. The addition of each new and interesting piece redefines the relationship.

AA

tRu wisdom. I'd agree.

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