Why am I so angry?

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  1. slothead
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    Every time I open this forum and read a few posts I become angry. It seems that everyone thinks they are smarter than everybody else. Then they go about breaking all the civility rules. I don't know how to avoid this, so I think I will have to find a new forum. :(

    Goodbye folks.
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    Yikes! What posts you been reading? This is a pretty friendly place compared to a lot of forums... Stick around and just avoid talking to those who push your buttons. It will be fun, I promise!
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    I can speak for all the moderators on this subject. We do our best to control the forum and some times it's not easy. All of us spend our personal time checking posts etc and doing what we can to make the forum a place you want to come to. Our team constantly are reviewing ways to make being here a pleasant experience. I personally have look at other iPad forums and frankly non even come close to ipadforums.net for what we offer. Regardless where you go you I am sure will have similar issues if not a lot worse.
    What i find in this forum is the enormous knowledge base that is available from the many members our super mod 1991-c4 comes to mind providing detailed Picts of "how to fix" etc it wonderful to receive responses from some one whom has resolved a problem that before they came on board here could not resolve.

    . No matter where you go you find prima donnas that know more than you and you just have to let it go and not wind your self up like a clock. Just click the home button and relax lol
    It would be nice if you could inform us of any particular incidents we may have missed it by all means let's us know in private You are always welcome here and hope to see you back soon.

    Col.Bris super moderator
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    Don't leave this site is one of the best forums have found and the people are really really easy to talk to! Just let the mods do their jobs and let them know what the problem is, but stick around!!
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    Well..... I don't have a lot to say here but most forums you find will be quite crude...full of spam and lacadasicly moderated.. If that's a word...:D
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    It's the internet, you have to understand that for the most part, people aren't being "mean" to you. It's difficult to convey tone of voice and sarcasm with simple text. Many times what you may be reading as negative and hateful comments are nothing more than good-natured poking fun at each other. I talk to people on the internet the same way I do my friends, with a bit of biting sarcasm, but none of it is meant with any negative connotations.

    The fact that you say you are leaving this forum for another tells me that you haven't been on many forums. This particular forum is one of the friendliest, non-hostile, and welcoming forums I've been on. You can try other forums, but I can almost guarantee you they won't be as welcoming, and you will get even more sarcasm and perhaps even some genuine negative/hateful comments.

    Just remember this is the internet, the land of anonymity. Just use this experience to "thicken your skin" a little bit and learn not to take ANYTHING you read on the internet too seriously.

    If you are genuinely getting *angry,* as in, increased heart rate, thinking about what you read online even while you are offline, allowing the stress to spill over into your interactions with "real" people, etc, you may want to consider finding an alternate source of information than internet forums or perhaps even seeking professional counseling. Just try to keep the internet and your emotions separate and you should be fine though.
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    Not sure if it is a word but it sure took me a few tries to sound it out and realise that you were trying to say "lacadasicly". :)

    I am gonna give you credit for the word. 12 points and a triple word score for Dannyboy
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    Yes, being a moderator is a thankless job! I "threatened" to close a thread that was starting to veer off course with personal comments and I was told that it would be "uncool" to do that!

    It is a mighty fine line we attempt to tread! You have to have somewhat of a thick skin if you are going to hang around these forums!
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    I think its fair to say any forum.... :D
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    LOL! I bet he's the same "DannyBoy85" who wiped the floor with me playing SpellStacker on the iPad, too! I recognize the name ;-)
    I love that game, by the way.
    And this IS the friendliest forum. I'm on 5 so I can throw in my 2 cents.
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    I climb in my kanga ouch and box like a kangaroo. Yea I am thick skin I guess I agree with you mate this is the best forum I have been in.
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    Amen to that!

    By contrast, I belong to an amateur radio forum with almost 424,000 registered members with nearly 31,000 considered to be "active". It is a huge site and it is what I will call "hyper-moderated". It is a fabulous forum in terms of information, but threads are kept tightly on course and at any hint of something inappropriate, threads are closed and infractions are handed out like Dramamine on a cruise ship!

    Things are so tight over there that several members started their own forum with basically one purpose... to make fun of the moderators on the other forum!

    On a fairly regular basis, the marital status of my parents at the time of my birth is called into question (or worse!) by a member who does not like the way I moderate over here. When that happens, my very sharp moderator's axe swings swiftly. Despite this fact, there is one goal I have in mind, and that is to NOT "hyper-moderate" and make ipadforums.net like that amateur radio forum!

    We're all adults here (for the most part) and we're here to exchange information and opinions and to have fun while doing it. I don't like treating members like children, but sometimes it is unavoidable.

    [/RANT] off!
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    Lackadaisically.
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    I would have to say this is by far the best ipad forums I have found. Since I joined last week, it has been very helpful, friendly folks, and great information. I havent gotten any Let me google that for you remarks lol.

    This is my first apple product and all the questions I have asked has been answered without hesitation or rudeness. I wouldnt be so sensitive about the handful of individuals that you see on this site that are less than helpful deter you away from here. Man up! Just joking! :D
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    Don't you hate those responses? Then the person takes the time to google and post all the results when a simple redirect to the right post or topic would have been much more helpful...even a quick answer would work!
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    I have been dealing with forums, list servers, Yahoo groups, etc for over 10 years and I have learned that when someone posts a question, no matter how simple or elementary it may seem to you, the person asking the question does not want to be told how to find the answer, where to find the answer and they certainly do not want a lecture on how easy it is to find the answer by typing it in a search engine.

    And speaking of forums that hyper-moderate, here are the rules from another technology-related forum that I belong to --

    "This forum has a zero tolerance policy in regard to abusing new users. You are not permitted to criticize, ridicule, patronize, talk condescendingly or suspiciously question anyone asking for help in this forum.

    Anyone violating this rule will not receive a warning, they will receive a full infraction. As the infractions build up you will lose the ability to post.

    This needs to be a welcoming, friendly forum with good attitudes. Please also do not get technical in explanation. Be aware that new people will not understand you.

    If you cannot follow these guidelines then I urge you to stay out of this forum. Thanks for your cooperation!"


    And yet people complain about how tightly moderated this forum is!
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    I am sorry you are unhappy here. But in IPF's defense, I have to say that this morning I was reading a post that you had posted. More than one, actually, and I could not recall where I had seen your avatar and your name.

    It was this thread here, you complaining about the very same thing I was reading that came from you. And folks were not even talking to you, but you quoted them and IMO, I thought your comments were rude and mean spirited.


    Just sayin ~

    Perhaps it's a guy thing ~ competitive and all. I know more than you type thing. But I don't see that here. Hell, everyone knows more than me.:D There are lots of very knowledgeable people here and should be respected, as the Mods who try very hard to keep this place as cool as it is.

    Okay ~ I'm done. Sorry if I came off like a bitch, but it is what it is.
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    Not friendly? I have been on bulletin boards before WWW and many forums since, mostly photo and graphics, but some political, literary, etc. This one is well moderated, friendly posters for the most part and fun too. Try a loosely modded forum LOL. I have picked up nice tips, tried to help others myself and just enjoyed the fun. I'd say stick around and just ignore any posters that rile you.
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    Yeah, you want to have someone call you "the scum of the Earth" and "as smart as a developmentally challenged monkey" go check out some of the political forums and start defending Obama. LOL :p
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    This is exactly how I feel and try to act within these guidelines. I mean really there are a few people in this world who want the easy way out for no reason than they can get it... so they pop in and ask a quick question instead of working for it and never return. However, there are more in this world who just don't have time or know how to search for an answer, maybe they need it fast, maybe they have only limited access to forum time, maybe they just don't know how. These are the people who can benefit from polite help, and they come back and the next thing you know they are helping others becuase that is "community" which is what a forum should be!
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