ireb or tiny umbrella will get your iPad out of DFU or restore mode unless there are some other issues than just stuck to restore/DFU mode. Just search for tiny umbrella or ireb in google and download the appropriate version according to your PC/Mac and then just run ireb or tiny umbrella and just hit the button that says something like "kick idevice out of recovery mode".
As for the update and restore,I prefer to download the firmware in my HDD and perform the update/restore as a break off in downloading the firmware might be painful and leave the iPad stuck in restore mode. And also update/restores is a serious process and is not for faint hearted,so if you are one of them,then I suggest you convince the apple support guys to do the updating and activating for you,or some experienced techy friends familiar with the process.
And I just wanted to say that iPad is a smart device which is hard to brick unless via physical damage etc.If you panic on being stuck on the recovery mode like that then I wonder you might have had a heart attack if you were in my shoes when I was updating my smartphone(not iPhone) firmware receiving instruction from a support guy on the phone(land phone) and my smartphone was bricked and later not even the support guys wanted to exchange or take responsibility for it until I bribed 'em a bit to kind of unbrick it by replacing the burned chips(according to the tech support guy) which resulted from the firmware update. So please respect your iPad and don't say it a "damn thing!".