Just for the fun of it, I have just done a nice new clean install and guess what, Remote still fails to work.
So thats 2 different desktop PC's an Brand new Sony Laptop and a Toshiba Netbook, an iPad, iPhone 4s and iPod touch and remote fails to work properly with any of them.
I still suspect its a bug in the Remote App or the later versions of iTunes. Anyone know where I can download an older version of iTunes to test that. I know I had it working about 18 months ago when I had an iPhone3 so what version of iTunes was active about 18 months ago.
I know I am not alone with this reading some of the many iPad/Phone help forums out there. It is quite a common issue that Apple have failed to address for some reason. Perhaps it will work when the new iPad3 and iPhone5 comes out later this year
Interesting thing to note is that all my other apps that use the network, Drop Box etc all work faultlessly so I know its not a network issue either.