What happened with AVPlayerHD? They must have been having some problems?
OP: You may be happier with an Android tab. Life is what it is and you don't need to live with limitations of the iPad if they dont' work for you. I love mine, but I recognize that it may not be right for everyone. Uploading files from a device that is not file-centric is going to be a constant frustration for you. Its a basic task but design constraints put in place in the development of iPad prevent that, for all expect photos or videos, or camera related things, in iOS6.