Can you explain what you mean by "recovery mode"? Is the iPad displaying the cord and iTunes symbol that requires you to connect to iTunes? Does it stay on the winter apple logo? Is there any way you can take a picture of your iPad in its current state?
I ask this because I have not seen an iPad not respond to the reset option of holding the Home and sleep buttons until the Apple logo shows. The only time is usually because the iPad has hardware problems. In addition, we may have a misunderstanding of terms. So, we need a better description of what is going on with the iPad.