Children behaving badly
Tonight i went to denny to get something to eat before turning in for the night ..There was this lady and her kid there and i swear i know my grandson who has Autism is a hand full at full throttle when he ging out all at the time's ..
But this kid need a belt taken to his butt and the mother should have been next for the belt ..
I'm sitting at the far end of the counter and i can here the kid yelling at the top of his lungs about his does not like what is been served to him along with him getting up and running around in the place bugging the heck out of everyone ..
By the time my food had gotten to me most of the people had moved to the counter area to get away from him and his mother ..
I guess i'm getting old because i fed up of him screaming and yelling and walk around the corner and ask the mother to please take the child outside and have a talk to him or i have a belt and no problem explaining to the little one the basic fact's of life about how to be good child in a public place..
She storms out of the place and i can see her on the phone and about 10 mins later a partol unit is in the front of the place and the officer's come in and ask me a few question about what happened here in the place ..
One of the cooks walk up and show the officer the video she had shot with her cell phone of kid doing everything under the sun in the dinning room there.
Along with a few other people telling the officer's that the mother was more about talking on her cellphone than keeping the kid under control in the place and not really saying to the kid keep it down there are people trying to eat here .
The officer walks out and tell the lady next time keep your kid under control or we have to have a talk to you ..
I know my grandson can be a handfull because of his behavior problem with Autism and he can do something that are a little creepy to other people by going over and eating off there plates or drinking out of there glass us we are used to him beening him and he does have the basic understanding that he in a public place and there are rules to be followed when we are in a public place ..
Yes we do tell him not to do and we keep a close eye on him when we are out in public place where we are going to be eating at with him in the middle of the booth so he traped between someone.
But this kid was normal kid that need someone to take the belt to his butt and not stop intill he learned how to act in a public place where there are other people in the area.
I'm just getting calmed down from haveing to deal with the officer's and the kid and i sitting here thinking like my god have we gone that far with kid today that they have not been taught the basic's of the knowage of how to act in a public place and be a good role model for you to follow ..
It seams to me is my generation the last generation to have the basic knowage of how to act in a public place passed along to us by our mother and father .
Sorry the rant is over
I agree, Henry. In my job I work with the state when we take kids into protective custody.
You have to have a license to fish. Buy anyone can have a child.
I am glad it is Friday.
I have eight children. If I'd needed a licence I'd be bankrupt....:(
You just need to buy a tv. Lol
Think I found the problem. Neglecting the child began long before the theatrics. :D
Originally Posted by henry2
You walked up to a total stranger and offered to beat her kid with a belt. That's what you did. A poorly behaved child isn't violating any laws. In my jurisdiction, telling someone you will beat their child if they dont do something is 3rd degree menacing and an arrest charge.
Regardless of how the kid was behaving you have less than zero standing in our civil society to offer to beat a stranger's child. Furthermore - writing a long post mentioning multiple times how you're willing to beat a kid with your belt without stopping "until they learn to behave" makes me think you aren't qualified to own a dog.
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Ok i do own a dog and he knows when he can cut up and have fun and when it time to sit and be quiet ..
Originally Posted by extendedforecast
The biggest problem we have in the country is the socalled the time out with a child way of thinking ..When i was growing up we had basic rules on how to act in public and if did not follow those rules we got butt's tanned ..
It like watch those video's of the kids doing the flash mob robbery's of places do you think that would be happening in the 1960's era no because the kids would have been shot right and there in the middle of the act ..
We have gone to far to the left in this country on how we handle a child who will not act in a proper way it time out or i take your toy away from you or your in the middle of the store and you have a kid running down the middle of the ailes and he screaming his head off because he not getting a toy .
Some people are more about let talk on my cell phone than minding there own kids in places.
My grandson is 8 years and he know's when not to act up or do something because we have taught him that and he also know's the basic rules on how to act when we are in a public place .Inside the house yes he can have all the fun and running around and doing normal kid thing's ..But before we leave the house he is pulled aside and told we are now going out of the house it time to behave in public ..
If he needs to go to the bathroom or wanting something to drink he knows to touch one of us and point to the item or take us by the hand and lead us to the bathroom in a public place ..
But this kid need the lesson of what my grandfather used to call take you out behind the barn and we are going to talk about your bad behavior in public place ..
If you do not like then remember we are reaping the socalled years of i know what better you than you do way of thinking from school to the person personal life in the raiseing of our childern ..
Maybe it time we do go back to the socalled common sense way of raiseing a child in this world or make the country in two part one area raise there kids like they are beening raised now and the other part where they are beening raised with basic understanding of how to act in public and how to behave as a person should be have ..
My kid's will tell you if they got there backside tanned it was over them steping over the basic rules of there socalled behavior in away that i thought ws not right ..Most time i called stop it right there with a look from me and they knew if you past the look then you where in trouble when we get home
So remember reaping the wind's of the socalled 60's & forward from the socalled people who think that they know better than the parent of how to raise there kid's ideas of the socalled social idea's of spareing the rod on the kid ..
Yes there is some parent's that need to have there kids taken away from them and raised by someone else ..But kids nows day's are beening taught in school that if do not like what is beening done to you in your home because your mother and father are trying to raise you right and make you do your homework or take out the trash called CPS on your mother and father ..
That how far we have gotten from a basic common sense way of thinking of raising your child .
I tend to think that a child who misbehaves ,has a parent who have not been there for them.
While I can sympathize with the discomfort you and others had in the restaurant,I don't think violence is the answer.
It's unfortunately a western child's behavior that is questionable.
Where childern have nothing ,the demands and self focus is much less.
Where parents spend time with children,the behavior is learned by example.
Good parents ,good children.
We notice while traveling the world the difference in behaviour immediately on arriving at a western world country.the wingeing voices and the i want ,iwant is loud and clear!
There are some things we are continuing to get wrong .
good parenting seems to be one of them.
We have grand children who are growing up well loved and disciplined.
We also have a business which offers holiday accommodation.
We have a no children policy,for the very reasons you have vented about.
I feel for the child who has been badly parented and will always be unwelcome and difficult to be around.
Let's hope the mother can see her,shortcomings and improve the child's chances of a happy life in the future.
I was a single parent and raiseing 4 kids when my wife passed away and they where age's of 12 to 16 years old with the two oldest beening the most helpfull along with her family helping out .The 12 year old was the most hard to handle but by the time she was 16 she had come around to becoming a good person ..But there was a few rough years with her
They knew they could be outright clowns and they knew when it was time to be quiet because of the we where somewhere they need to be quiet or eating in a nice place ..
So yes i understand why some places now have the socalled no childern rule when they are haveing open house or public event's
The mother was wrong for not controlling her child but threatening to beat the kid? Seriously? Inappropriate over reaction. The cop should have had a talk with you, regardless of what the little brute did.