iCloud/IMessage email Set up account problems using I'd On iPad 2

Can anyone help or point me in the direction of how to fix my iCloud to veryfiy my usual iTunes id & set up iMessage with this email also. No email ever turns up to verify & can't set up iMessage cause it comes on email in use on the verify. Only way it appears to work is set up a me.com account but of course can't use iMessage then as no contacts saved on there!!

HELP!!!! Friend of mine has sorted his with his usual apple I'd so must b able to use it on there.

Any suggestion or do I re-install

Works fine on my iPhone

Cheers